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Authenticity

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Thelema Tarot (Lo Scarabeo, 2015)

“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”
Brené Brown,
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

I’m really enjoying this book, which I began reading a couple of weeks ago.  Brené Brown started off as someone who researched topics such as shame.  From that work, and through personal struggles, she has come to some clear and helpful ideas about how to live authentically and joyfully.  As she says, though, it’s not always easy.  And it happens one day at a time, one choice at a time.

Authenticity

I had to make some choices about authenticity last week.  I was interviewed by some tv folks – a researcher and a director – who are making a “reality” show about different types of tarot readers here in the UK.  I don’t yet know whether or not I’ll be in the show…

Being interviewed, the director in particular asked me some quite probing questions, things I don’t normally talk about much in public.  Like, “So, you talk about magic spells, does that mean you’re a wiccan or pagan?”  And, “What does being a witch mean to you?”

Now, I know there are plenty of people on YouTube, especially those doing various pagan/witchy challenges, who talk about this stuff all the time.  However, I’m not one of them.  It was only really when I had to decide whether to publish the Celtic Lenormand under my own name or a nom de plume that I chose to admit publically to following a pagan spiritual path.  Even now, it’s not something that I come out and say to most people.  Not even all my family know!

So, after the interview I started worrying: “What if they want me to talk about my spirituality on TV?  Would I be okay with that?  Do I mind having that kind of knowledge about my deepest held beliefs and personal practices ‘out there’ in that way?”

It might seem kind of silly.  After all, I already post videos on YouTube talking about magic.  Yet, for the most part, I can ‘justify’ that in psychological terms, using the language of my training as a psychotherapist and hypnotherapist.  Talking about praying to the Goddess is a little trickier.

My Choice

In the end, I decided to not worry about it.  It is who I am, it is who I choose to be.  And for the most part – in this country, at this time – it’s not likely to get me burned at the stake or put in prison!

Hopefully, too, very few of the other mums at my kids’ schools will see the show, and if they do it’s probably because they’re open to this stuff anyway…  And if not, back to it won’t get me (or my kids) drowned or burned to death.  If other people have an issue with this, that is largely their problem.

The Bottom Line

I acknowledge that being authentic isn’t always a safe choice.  In that case, you need to use your wisdom to decide when and where (and with whom) to be really yourself.

Most of the times, though, our fears about being authentic are more to do with acceptance.  And it might be that the person who isn’t fully accepting us is… us.  I am much more comfortable with myself and my spirituality than I was even five years ago.  So, I can be authentic more of the time, in more varied situations, and with more people.

As for the TV show, as Phineas T. Barnum, a 19th Century showman, is attributed with saying: “There’s no such thing as bad publicity.”

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4 Responses to “Authenticity”

  • If I was watching a programme about this kind of thing, you are ‘exactly’ the kind of person I’d want to be watching because you are a grounded, knowledgable, and interesting figure within this industry. The fact that your spirituality isn’t tattooed up your arms or is something everyone already knows about you highlights your respect for your practice, in my opinion. But when asked about it, you give considered and thought provoking answers.

    You may even be surprised by people’s reactions if they do see it. Gossips will always gossip, but I guess there will be others who genuinely find what you have to say interesting and inspiring.

    I hope your interview gets aired!

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  • Being authentic… How often do I struggle with this myself, Not only in regards to my spiritual life but also to who I am on a personal more mundane level.. Making choices and discovering what it is I really want and who I want to be can be a real challenge.
    I hope you will feel comfortabele in case teh interview will be aired and like you said it is often ourselves who doubt us the most.
    PS. I agree with Steve on how you conduct you business wholeheartedly 😀

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  • I like the idea of seeing someone as level-headed as you on television.

    I am wary of what they’ll do to you during editing of this reality show. Very often people are edited to look and sound like what they are not. The only reality is that of the preconceived notion of producers who either edit the hell out of sensible people or dub in a narrator making fun of people (similar to the sort of narration on Come Dine with Me.)

    I sounds like a great idea to have such a show, but already I can see them skewing your interview. Such shows often don’t want reality or the truth of people, they want ratings and money for next season’s show.

    Oh well, perhaps they will let you stand as you are? I’m a cynic.

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  • I am sure I would feel all the same things you feel about this, as I have struggled to shake off the nerve-racking labels of fortune-teller ? or peddler of woo. But I agree with Steve. The more of us that show out authentic selves in a grounded way, the better. I hope if you do end up doing it then it’s a positive experience! ????✨

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