Sometimes, you say something and you know exactly what you mean. Then, you realise that the person you’re speaking with has a quite different understanding, or isn’t at all sure what you mean.
Having asked around, that seems to be the case with Magical Life Coaching. So, I’d like to take the opportunity to explain what it means to me, and why I’m so passionate about it!
Breaking it down feels like it’ll be helpful, so let’s start there:
1. relating to, using, or resembling magic.
2. beautiful or delightful in a way that seems removed from everyday life.
Both of those are what I think of with the word magical.
For one thing, Magical Life Coaching is aimed at making your life feel more delightful, less humdrum.
For another, it uses magical means.
Guided imagination exercises (aka magical meditations):
You can be guided through a meditation during the session, or download a free (to clients) meditation
to support what you’re working on. Or else learn to meditate by yourself using your imagination to take you where you need to go.
Tarot cards or other visual cues:
Draw some cards to clarify what you want, or to connect with spirit for suggestions on the best way forward. The cards can also keep your focus and motivation going between sessions, or after the coaching finishes
An altar/dedicated space/place to commune with spirit:
It can be really helpful to have a space where you can keep reminders of what you are working on. You can also use it as a place to carry out spells or rituals, or where you can do any divination work. It grounds all these things in the material world, and is a commitment to making them part of your life.
You might just want to meditate on occasion, or else have the ritual of a daily/weekly card reading. Rituals can also be a lot more complex, based around natural rhythms like the moon cycles, or done on a particular day such as the solstices. Rituals can be focused on achieving a particular goal, such as letting go of negative thought patterns, or drawing abundance to you. For example, you might write down the things you want to release on a piece of paper, and then burn that paper. Adding in things like a particular colour candle, a specific type of crystal, can reinforce the message you are giving your subconscious through this act.
This is about your whole life. You are not your problem, and your life is so much more than any one thing going on in it. You need a solution that takes into account the rest of your life, your strengths, your preferences. It’s not just about looking at something going on for you as a symptom or an issue. It’s about thinking holistically, figuring out what suits you and the way you want to live, who you want to be.
Turns out, many people have negative associations to the word coach or coaching. The main objection seems to be the idea that people call themselves a coach with little or no training.
Having completed a Masters in Social Anthropology (with classes on shamanism and tribal witchcraft, amongst others), and a Postgraduate Diploma in Psychotherapy and Counselling (two year full time NVQ level 7, if that means more to people), I’m not short a qualification or three.
Both of those feed into life coaching: an anthropologist goes around asking questions to try to understand people’s lives and beliefs; a psychotherapist and counsellor asks questions to try to understand people’s emotions and situation.
Training and working as a yoga teacher was great background, too. It is particularly relevant in terms of being able to attune to my clients’ physical experience, and also for the understanding it gave me of meditation. I also hold a degree in Law (Ll. B.), but that’s mostly irrelevant to what I do these days 😀
Despite all these official bits of paper, I decided to study coaching and become a Member of the Association for Coaching
. And the training for that wasn’t just a weekend: the Professional Coaching Skills Training I went through counts as 151 hours of CPD. That’s nearly a straight month working full-time, though I did it over three months.
You might ask, why bother, when I have so much psychological training? A big part of the answer is that coaching’s focus on what you can do moving forward is really powerful.
While I get the importance of people having space to explore the past and/or their emotions, I also saw people in therapy who were just stuck. Coaching pushes you to get unstuck, to figure out a way to move forward and actually take it.
In the same way, with magic I often talk about the importance of bringing all the elements into play:
Fire: the drive to get moving, and the creativity to determine what you’re going to do.
Water: the emotional connection to your subconscious, to overcome self-sabotage and get your whole self behind your chosen course of action.
Air: the actual focus on what you want to achieve, saying the words, making the commitment, focusing your will.
Earth: the practical steps to support what you have created, connected and committed to.
Spirit: the ethical foundation behind what you do, the connection to something greater than yourself that makes it truly worthwhile, and that supports you in achieving more than you think you can.
For me, coaching has a big focus on the earth element, something that is often missing in more psychological therapies. And Magical Life Coaching brings in all the elements: creativity, connection, commitment and practicality, as well as that something more, something beyond the everyday.
That bit, the part of spirit, is the hardest for me to put into words: it is often felt more than understood. In Magical Life Coaching, it is something for you to experience, rather than just talk about.
What does a Magical Life Coaching session actually look like?
You start out by talking through what you want to work on. That might be an on-going issue, but each day, each week is different, and where you want to go from here may well change over time.
You could use cards to get some clarity, or for a prompt around the best possible solution moving forward.
You might want to be guided through a meditation to tap into your subconscious and plant messages for change there. For example, for stress, anxiety and/or insomnia, you might want a meditation that helps you release unhelpful thoughts and allows you to relax both mentally and physically. For weight management, you could use a meditation that plants messages about your ideal healthy weight and ways to achieve it, so that your subconscious works towards that without you having to consciously focus on it all the time.
Or you might want to figure out an appropriate ritual. That might involve some kind of cleansing; or activating a crystal to carry around with you or put under your pillow; or creating something imbued with your intent; or doing something on a regular basis to move you forward, such as a tea ritual.
Whatever you do, you’ll leave the session with a greater sense of clarity, calm, and a plan to put into action.
If you’re interested in some Magical Life Coaching
, why not contact me and we can set up a time for a free consultation to discuss your needs and desires.